Lett's Set A Spell

Resiliency helps overcome challenges
Sep. 22, 2013 @ 06:00 PM

In today’s spinning society, even the most secure are feeling dizzy with incessant rapid changes surrounding us. Many of us are forced to deal with economic challenges, cultural changes, technological overload, natural disasters, and/or unforeseen circumstances that seem beyond our control. Despite constant advancements in medicine, it seems that more people are sicker with catastrophic illnesses than ever before. As individuals are constantly seeking new ways to manage the buildup of pressures associated with stressful living during these so-called tough times.

More than ever before we are realizing that we must discover unique approaches to survive, and expectantly thrive. We are required to learn coping mechanisms and develop better strategies to feel successful at home, at work and in the community. It is obvious that we must always maintain a positive attitude and take constructive actions toward achieving our objectives, but attitude and action are not enough.

We must be resilient — we cannot let adversity take over lives, but rather focus on finding solutions and rising above difficulties.

I define resilience as the ability

• to accept ambiguity … to live in the mystery,

• to have faith in a better tomorrow,

• to draw upon an inner strength, and

• to recover steadily from setbacks.

WHILE SOME people have an innate ability to bounce back, others must cultivate resilience because this attribute is necessary for living with increasing levels of constant change.

Resilient people

• believe in themselves,

• see the best in others,

• welcome new options, and

• trust in the ebb and flow of the universe.

These individuals not only survive the storm, but they accept the pouring rain as an element necessary to wash away the toxins and create a balance in the organism, whether human or nature.

Resilient people may be abused, threatened, even harmed, but they do not dwell on blaming others for their problems and instead take responsibility for healing the past, accepting the present and expecting a brighter future. Being resilient involves handling life’s stresses by avoiding feelings of helplessness and instead being proactive and confident in moving forward.

WHILE WRITING about these ideas, I am teaching what I most need to learn. Since being injured in a car accident in November 2011, I have been forced to undergo constant physical and emotional therapy that have created many hours of treatment, a lot of time for travel, loss of time from my business, and decrease in income. I continue to endure uncomfortable pain and constant stress. This ongoing trauma has forced me to dig deep within myself to find staying power to keep on moving forward.

I long to figure out how I can be of service to others and yet also save myself. Therefore, I must be resilient every day … drawing upon walking, writing, praying, meditating, reading, working in my yard and other healing therapies to remain positive.

Resiliency is a consciousness-changing idea because it causes us to think differently and therefore affects our behaviors, modifies our actions and influences everything in our environment. When we transform ourselves, everything else changes, and other people and current situations shift, too.

When confronted with challenges, we eventually realize that difficult situations force us to grow in wisdom so we can ultimately move to a higher level of living. Through resiliency, we can enjoy taking more risks, opening up to innovative possibilities and experiencing unique opportunities.

AlexSandra Lett is a professional speaker and the author of “Natural Living,  From Stress to Rest;” “A Timeless Place, Lett’s Set a Spell at the Country Store;” “Timeless Moons, Seasons of the Fields and Matters of the Heart;” “Timeless Recipes and Remedies, Country Cooking, Customs, and Cures;” and “Coming Home to my Country Heart, Timeless Reflections about Work, Family, Health, and Spirit.” Lett can be reached at (919) 258-9299 or LettsSetaSpell@aol.com.